I read a book called Watching the English by Kate Fox, an anthropologist who has taken the unusual step of studying her own people. It's written in a very tongue-in-cheek and light-hearted way, which in itself is a very English thing to do - one of the things she explains in the book is the unwritten rule of not appearing to take yourself too seriously.
Reading this book I kept thinking they should hand copies of this book out at the airport - I could really have done with a manual upon arrival in this country, something to explain for instance what the English actually mean by the term "teatime", or even worse, by the word "tea"!
I remember my shock when I heard someone here talk about taking a burger home to give her son "for his tea" - I mean, what's a hamburger got to do with tea?
It turns out that some of the Brits refer to their main meal, eaten in the evening, as "tea". So if someone invites you to come round for tea, you need to find a polite and tactful way of making sure you know what they mean. Tea can be anything from the drink itself, the drink plus biscuits and/or cakes and/or sandwiches, to a proper cooked meal - the cooked meal may or may not include the drink - most homes I've been invited to for a meal have not served tea with the meal, but possibly afterwards; though I have seen Brits drinking tea with a meal in what is known here as a "greasy caff" (spelled cafe but pronounced caff), on which more later...
I think (though even after all these years I still haven't fathomed all there is to fathom about the Brits, so I may be wrong) when they say "teatime" they always mean the afternoon, so even if someone calls their evening meal "tea", when they invite you to "pop round at teatime" they don't mean "come for a meal". But "teatime" can vary greatly. I know people who have their afternoon tea at 3.30, others who have it at 5, and am quite sure that some regard 4pm as the sacrosanct teatime.
Traditional afternoon tea involves a teapot, and people have some very strong views on the precise process of preparing tea. It's important to warm the teapot by swishing some hot water inside it first; then you pour this water out, put tea leaves inside the teapot (or tea bags if you are a bit more modern in your outlook) and pour boiling water over it (apparently it must be boiling). It's also considered best to drink the tea out of bone china. Some people insist on cups and saucers, but I know perfectly respectable and traditionally-minded people who use bone china mugs. And of course the English do insist on polluting their tea with milk...
But enough about tea. Next time: cafes and coffee shops.
